Thursday, June 29, 2006

Friendships

Another goodie from Rex Barker’s site…

Some Thoughts on Friendship

  • True friendship never ends.
  • Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.
  • Actions speak louder than words.
  • Good friends are like stars...You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.
  • Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while, you might miss it.
  • If you think that the world means nothing, think again. You might mean the world to someone else.
  • Don't let the past hold you back; you're missing the good stuff.
  • A best friend is like a four leaf clover: hard to find and lucky to have.

Rex is reminding everyone that friendship is a two way street. You have to both give and receive. Today do something unexpected for a dear friend.

Hmm… Ja, what do you think?

Tuesday, June 27, 2006

Two Deaths in Final Harry Potter Book

Who can it be? Could it be Harry, or Neville or someone else? Any guesses?
In an interview broadcast today on Britain's Channel 4, J.K. Rowling revealed that at least two characters will die in the seventh and final Harry Potter book, but was careful not to say who. She also said she understands the mentality behind an author wanting to kill off the main character at the end of a book series.
Source: Reuters/Wizard News

The Dolls: Live in Manila

Yipee! In a few weeks, PCD will rock Manila!!!


The Black Eyed Peas and The Pussy Cat Dolls will be performing live here in Manila on July 27 and July 28, 2006.

Monday, June 26, 2006

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

I am sharing Rex Barker’s thoughts on relationships. Read on…

"In Life, we have constant interactions with others. There are healthy interactions and unhealthy ones. What defines one versus the other. The primary difference is energetic. Are you both benefiting from the relationship or is one just taking and the other giving?

A healthy relationship is where both parties are giving and receiving and are honestly trying to help one another. This can be a healthy marriage, a close friendship or a win-win business relationship.

All too often, we find ourselves in unhealthy relationships, where we keep giving and giving, and the other person keeps taking and taking. I am not referring to a charity-type situation, where it seems that one is giving and the other is taking. (Although, in truth, the giver is actually receiving tremendous benefit from giving).

We all have so-called friends we associate with, who are always asking for something, want you as a sounding board for ideas or a shoulder to cry on during difficult times, but who are not there for you when you need them. Or someone in business who always calls you for advice, but is quiet when you ask for it."

As Rex Barker’s reminder, each of us should go through our relationships, one by one. Some unhealthy ones may be salvaged if the person is considerate at heart and made aware of his or her apparently unintentional behavior. But most unhealthy relationships often can not be saved. And the important thing for you to realize is that you are not honoring yourself by being in these unhealthy relationships. So start honoring yourself and find healthy ones today.

This reminds me… Sistahuds, don’t worry about me, I am cultivating healthy relationships!

Wednesday, June 21, 2006

After 12 years of waiting...

Movie Review: ‘The Lake House’ Has Tacked-On Happy Ending
Freehand
By: Mario E. Bautista

When Keanu Reeves and Sandra Bullock were first paired in Speed, it really boosted their careers.

Keanu was projected as an action star and did the The Matrix series, while Sandra starred in endearing comedies like While You Were Sleeping and Miss Congeniality. When Keanu refused to do Speed 2, it flopped.

Now, they’re together again in a fantasy-romance that is the remake of a Korean movie made in 2000, Siworae or Il Mare, which is probably the same film which inspired GMA Films’ romance about calendar-challenged lovers, Moments Of Love.


We haven’t seen the original, so we don’t know what changes Argentinian director Alejandro Agresti (Valentin, The Act In Question) and his scriptwriter David Auburn (Proof) made in the Hollywood version. But judging from the finished product, we daresay that Moments Of Love is an even more affecting well-told love story than this one.

The movie starts with Kate Forster (Sandra), a doctor, departing from the glass house of the title, perched on stilts over Lake Michigan, to work in a Chicago hospital. She leaves a letter in its mailbox requesting the next tenant to forward her mail to her new address and apologizing for the paw prints her dog left behind.

Alex Wyler (Keanu), an architect, moves in and sees Kate’s letter, but he doesn’t see any paw prints, although a dog does appear later to keep him company.

The two lonely hearts start exchanging notes through a time-traveling mailbox whose red flag goes up and down like magic to indicate that they are receiving new letters. Alex lives in 2004 while Kate lives in 2006, unlike the lovers in Moments Of Love who have a 50-year difference.

To enjoy this kind of vehicle, you have to accept it mainly as a whimsical fairy tale since if you’d insist on logic, you will only spoil the narrative. But even if you buy its basic idea, the script should still try to give it a semblance of reality and credibility for us to somehow relish it.

The first kink for us is the fact that we live in the era of the Internet and cellphones. It is so easy for Alex or Kate to research on the Net about each other, and yet they don’t do it. Also, they would have simplified things if they’d just write down each other’s cell-phone numbers or put a copy of their photos inside the mailbox. If the romance was set in the ’50s or ’60s, the story would have been more credible.

But if you’re willing to overlook its lapses, you might still enjoy the film as the chemistry between Keanu and Sandra remains very appealing and they manage to sustain the human element in this fantasy love story.

The trouble with the movie is that it aims for more profundity with subplots which are ne-ver fully realized. Kate is given her own boyfriend, uptight lawyer Morgan (Dylan Walsh), but whatever happens to them is never made clear. Alex has a strained relationship with his father Simon (Christopher Plummer), a more accomplished architect, and this father-and-son drama only distracts us from the movie’s main focus, which should be the story of two lovers trying to connect across time.

These pretensions to family conflicts only bog the film down and make it so slow-moving and even less convincing as the story plods along.

Sandra takes her role as the sad single career woman too seriously that she looks so glum and passionless throughout most of The Lake House, failing to supply the energy the picture so badly needs even when she’s playing chess with her dog.

Keanu fares better as the architect who gets more upbeat when he feels that true love is coming into his life, especially after he gets a copy of Jane Austen’s Persuasion, which Sandra leaves behind in a train station. Fairly adequate in supporting roles are Christopher Plummer as Keanu’s imperious dad who built the lake house many years ago for his mom and Shohreh Agdashloo (House Of Sand And Fog) as Sandra’s doctor friend and understanding boss.

Don’t worry, though, as the vehicle has the obligatory and conventional happy ending. Still, it feels so tacked-on, only the truly gullible will be satisfied with it.
What the film really succeeds in doing is displaying the beautiful architecture of the facades of various homes and buildings in Chicago that are shown here in abundance.


They’re definitely even more wonderful than the glass lake house referred to in the title. And if only for that, the movie may still be worth seeing.

Owie Smowie, watch na watch na ako!

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

Wanted: Volunteers

Good friend Troy is currently looking for volunteers. Anybody interested?

Got time? Wanna help teach kids to read?

Then read on and join the activities of Aklatang Pambata:

June 24
9 am Community Involvement: Aklatang Pambata
Meets the Paltok Community
Will show the works from the Reading Festival and explain parents role in promoting reading to kids
10 am Volunteer Training: Possible topics: (will teach only 1-2 for this day)
a. Understanding youth and education situation
b. Identifying target learners and learning styles
c. Events management: Teaching strategies to equip facilitators
d. Storytelling and storytelling strategies

July 1
9 am Volunteer training (2nd installment)

July 8
9 am Storytelling Session, THEME: Nutrition

July 15
9 am Community Involvement: Recruiting Volunteers from the Community

July 22
9 am Storytelling Session, THEME: Nutrition

July 29
7 pm Fundraising: AKLATAN ACOUSTICS: a benefit concert

Send us an email at volunteer@aklatangpambata.org. if you want to participate

Aklatang Pambata
Alistair Troy B. Lacsamana
Executive Director, Edukasyon Para Sa Kinabukasan, Inc.
Project Manager

Sunday, June 18, 2006

#1 Dad

Happy Father's Day to a #1 Dad

And The Most Important Man In My Life.

Friday, June 16, 2006

Misses

Even though I have a little bit of freedom lately, I still cannot seem to meet with some of my friendly friends. I miss having long chats with them, having good food and just fooling around and having fun. Though I see some of my dearest friends regularly and talk to them lengthy on the phone, I haven’t seen these ones physically for quite some time.

1) Ruth G. Cervantes-Casiño. Best friend! Although we exchange emails, YM chats, SMS, I miss her physically. I miss her laughter, her usual banter regarding my boylets, her sermons about my so-called friends and my godchild, Elian. Baby Ruth!!!!!

2) Mary Grace A. De Ramon. Gracey! Bar none, the sweetest girl in my life. Malapit na ang birthday niya and I have to be there for her this year, missed her last year because I got sick. Don’t worry, will call Tita Betsy soon!

3) Adina Benosa-Manansala. She’s my regular lunch buddy at Shell House. I consider her my “ate” and adviser for the everyday troubles. We see each other everyday online but I long for the actual sound of her voice and the way she looks at me and especially the way we look at people. Dins, takasan mo muna si Alvin!

4) Aileen Espinosa-Magrimbao. I call her Seksi and she calls me Siksik. She’s my ultimate movie cum lunch buddy at Pilipinas Shell. I owe her chocolate cakes and a few greens. We usually schedule our dates but work and a few conflicts tend to break our plans.

5) Arvin Frank G. Daquioag. Whenever I see somebody orders 3 cups of rice for lunch, I always think of Arvin. Just like Seksi, I owe him a chocolate cake. Arvs, wag masyadong magpakapagod sa Petron!

6) Cherryl Chua and Divina Delasin. Golf and gimik buddies. Our distance is the main reason. Miss ko na kayong dalawa!

7) Andrea C. Calonzo. Heidi! Ang pinakamagandang Administrative Assistant na nakilala ko at super bait! Wedding bells na ba?

8) Geraldine Esguerra-Longa and Rizalina Ambas. Roommate and Sally! Lunch tayo kapag hindi na kayo toxic! Japanese tayo ulit with Menchu.

9) Zarah Suzanne E. Villanueva. Princess Zarah or Zsa Zsa. Dónde está usted? Busy con el trabajo? Almorcemos la cena y pronto.

10) Iyra Buenrostro, Jeremy Arevalo, Michael Villanueva, Marvin Vergara, and Norman Noor Azman. Kiddies! Cutie, Verbose and the Bodyguards. Sa birthday kaya tayo ni Ma’am Buenrostro magkitakits?

If I list everybody, I might have to fill in a lot of space. Ha, ha, ha! Why them…

…simply because, they’re worth missing. Love you all!

Thursday, June 15, 2006

Romantic and Beautiful

Looking Through Your Eyes
Performed by: The Corrs and Bryan White, Leann Rimes, David Foster
From the smash Warner Bros. animated motion picture "Quest for Camelot," comes this soaring, gracious ballad.


Look at the sky tell me what do you see
Just close your eyes and describe it to me
The heavens are sparkling with starlight tonight
That's what I see through your eyes.

I see the heavens each time that you smile
I hear your heartbeat just go on for miles
And suddenly I know why life is worthwhile
That's what I see through your eyes
That's what I see through your eyes.

Here in the night, I see the sun
Here in the dark, our two hearts are one
Its out of our hands, we can't stop what we have begun
And love just took me by surprise, looking through your eyes.

I see a night I wish could last forever
I see a world we're meant to see together
And it is so much more than I remember
More than I remember
More than I have known.

Here in the night, I see the sun
Here in the dark, our two hearts are one
Its out of our hands, we can't stop what we have begun
And love just took me by surprise, looking through your eyes
Looking through your eyes.

One of my ultimate favorites. Very good love song and has a very haunting melody. If you are hopelessly in love, this song is a need.

Sunday, June 11, 2006

Agripina C. Banigoos

She is always present. She will be there at my doorstep and she never forgets. I do not have to call her or remind her of a particular event, even my birthday. Present or no present at all, she always brightens my day.

For this year, present ulit ang friendship ko! Though I am not available on the exact date of my birthday, she wanted to go to where I was kahit na medyo out of reach; she was persistent, kaso mas persistent ako na hindi puede. He,he,he.

Carrying with her merienda good for two, Wendy’s chicken burger with fries and Biggie Size Iced-Tea, gifts and birthday card, I met Agripina "Agri" C. Banigoos in front of our house. Just like the previous dates that we have, we are wearing the same shade of shirts. Red shirts again though I changed into a Pink Mossimo shirt because I am all wet with sweat from the terrible Manila heat. We just cannot help ourselves laughing while going inside the house.


I was busy working, brought home some unfinished deadlines, while eating the merienda Agri bought we were so noisy chattering about the latest stuff from our different world. Whenever I am with Agri, I feel very light and jolly. Her laughter is very addictive. I keep on removing my glasses so that I will not work with my laptop. Quality time with a friend is a topmost task.

I had fun opening her gifts, I loved the Bubblegum glass, love na love ko ang Bubblegum characters and I really liked the cellphone accessory she gave me. Mabilis pa sa alas-kuwatro eh nakabit ko na sa N70 ko ang thingy! So cute! But I told Agri, I’ll keep the thingy with my birthday stuff para nakadisplay at hindi maluma, I’ll use muna the gift for a week then I’ll keep it. Ayaw kong mahingi or mawala! Very precious!


Though our time was shortened because of other appointments (usually kasi may singing sessions and movie sessions pa kami with matching iyakan) I know that it is not only me who enjoyed the visit.

Love you, Agri!

Friday, June 09, 2006

If I Could Turn Back Time

Turn Back Time
Peformed by: Aqua
Released: 1997
Label: Universal

Give me time to reason,
give me time to think it through
Passing through the season,
where I cheated you

I will always have a cross to wear,
but the bolt reminds me I was there

So give me strength,
to face this test tonight

If only I could turn back time
If only I had said what I still hide
If only I could turn back time
I would stay for the night. For the night...

Claim your right to science
Claim your right to see the truth
Though my pangs of conscience,
Will drill a hole in you

I seen it coming like a thief in the night,
I seen it coming from the flash of your light

So give me strength,
to face this test tonight

If only I could turn back time
If only I had said what I still hide
If only I could turn back time..
I would stay for the night

The bolt reminds me I was there
the bolt reminds me I was there

If only I could turn back time
If only I had said what I still hide
If only I could turn back time
I would stay for the night
[repeat chorus until fades out]

I was updating the list of songs in my mp3 player and I cannot help but recall some cute episodes in my life while this song was playing. I just love this song. I cannot get enough of hearing it.

Tuesday, June 06, 2006

Traditions and Food Trip

It has been a tradition that we see each other and celebrate our birthdays together over lunch or dinner with matching gift giving and tons of chikahan. For this year, we celebrated my birthday the whole day with the Marianna and Elline.

We first went to the Professional Regulation Commission (PRC) office at P. Paredes., Cor. Morayta St., Sampaloc, Manila and renewed our professional ID. There was a long queue getting inside PRC and we were lucky that Marianna and Elline did not queued very long to reach the main gate. I just waited for them in front of the gate, pakialam ng iba eh ayaw ko nga sa malayo, and we just flashed our old professional ID’s and off we go.


We finished the renewal process in less than an hour and spent a lot for the renewal fess. The only setback with PRC is that we have to return after three weeks to get our new ID. We really wish that they would acquire the quick release features of renewing a driver’s license at the LTO. However, it is another day for us to excuse ourselves from work and another day of chikahan.


9am on the clock and we head off for SM Mall of Asia. Upon arrival, we had a quick stop at Figaro for morning merienda of Iced Mocha and Blueberry Muffins. Good thing we had merienda since we really roamed around the whole lot of the said mall.


Literally, we completely checked out the two floors of the mall including the esplanade. The Filipinos are proud of the said mall because it is the third largest mall in the world behind the West Edmonton Mall in Edmonton, Canada and the Golden Resources Mall in Beijing, China.


We had lunch at Crazy Roll and we tried their Omurice and various sushi rolls. After lunch we strolled some more and window-shopped. Some of the establishments are still under construction and many empty spaces but you can still feel relaxed and comfortable since the façade of the empty stalls are colorfully decorated. Maybe in a few more months, all stalls will be occupied and more choices for the shoppers.


Before heading home, we stopped for a quick afternoon merienda, a slice of a dark chocolate cake and fudge walnut brownies. Though we planned to watch a movie, we opted to roam around, no new movies yet and we agreed to wait for Superman and Pirates of the Caribbean.


One thing that I can say is that if you want to see Mall of Asia, be there early. Why? After our lunch, the crowd is already a plenty. Shoppers are everywhere. You also need to wear comfortable shoes so that you will not get tired roaming around. However, for senior citizens they offer rides in a golf cart and there is a free tram outside the mall.

My birthday treat now over, next in line is Elline. But before the 12th of September, we’ll head back to PRC for our licenses and another round of chikahan and foodtrip.

Monday, June 05, 2006

My 30th Birthday

That is right, 30 years ago on June 4, 1976; I was born in Olongapo City, Philippines. Like they say, time really does fly.

I would like to thank each and everyone for all the sweet thoughts, good wishes, and fervent prayers as I celebrated my 30th birthday.


It was nice to hear from all of you and you really made my birthday a memorable one.

Saturday, June 03, 2006

Six Steps to Enjoying Your True Wealth

A good read.

How to Be More Emotionally Present to Your Family No Matter How Busy You Are: 6 Steps to Enjoying Your True Wealth
By Bo Sanchez

We were going to Hong Kong that day. I was going to preach for three days but had two extra days to be with my family. Picture us at the airport: My wife carrying our baby in her arms, my eldest son bouncing about like a rabbit and announcing to the whole world, Im going to Hong Kong Disneyland! And the poor skinny father? Straining to push eight massive bags on a wobbly cart with a stubborn right wheel. (I've noticed that these eranged carts supernaturally end up with me wherever I go.) That was when we heard the crying. Correction. Not crying. But spine-chilling, lung-busting screaming. Two kids were holding onto their mother. They were separated by four-foot tall steel bars. But to those distraught children, those steel bars represented two years of being without their mother the contract of a domestic helper in Hong Kong. Four small arms clutching, grabbing, not letting go. The whole world heard their pleading scream, Mommy, please don't go! Please don't go! I'll never forget the mother's pained, tortured face as though a knife was ripping through her body. My wife cried openly. I wept inside and held onto my kids more closely. That was two days ago. Yesterday, the story continued.

Those Small Arms Continue to Reach Out

Yesterday was Sunday. And I walked around Central. If you don't know Hong Kong, Central is where thousands upon thousands of Filipina Domestic Helpers congregate. They sit on sidewalks. They sit on overpasses. They sit by storefronts. I walked passed one woman who was reading a handwritten letter. The handwriting was obviously a child's penmanship. I walked passed another listening to a little cassette player not to listen to music but to a voice of a kid telling stories. But what broke my heart was the news given to me by Shirley, the head of one organization that tries to help them get financial education. I was shocked by what she said. Brother Bo, out of our 700 members who are married, 80% are already separated from their husbands. Families aren't designed for prolonged separation. They're not just made for that. We're supposed to spend time together.

Six Steps to Spending More Time with Your Family No Matter How Busy You Are
Bo, why are you telling me this? I'm not in Hong Kong. I'm living with my family under one roof. Listen. Yes, you're not in Hong Kong. But if you don't have time for your family and your heart is not focused on them you might as well be in another country. You could be physically present but are you emotionally present as well?

Let me share with you six important steps you could take to become more emotionally present with them.

Step #1: Be Close.
I'm still in Hong Kong as I write this piece. It's five in the morning as I type this article in bed. And my little family is literally around me because we're all sleeping on one bed. Yes, we've become one mass jumble of intertwined humanity, our limbs, legs and arms crisscrossing each other. And that's when I realize gosh, I don't know how blessed I am. Why? Here I am with my family. I feel their skin. I smell their scents. We're so close, I feel their breath. And yet I'm surrounded by 148,000 domestic helpers here in Hong Kong that have been away from their families for months, for years, for decades. And for those who've separated forever. Let me say it again: We don't know how blessed we are. We complain that our families are nutty. But we don't understand how blessed we are to have them close enough to experience their nuttiness. We complain about our petty quarrels, our cold wars, our dysfunctionality. But whose family isn't dysfunctional? I've talked to some people here in Hong Kong who would give anything to be with their families again even for just one day of nuttiness. The first step to be more emotionally present to your family is to actually be physically present to them. Be close! You need to know how precious your family is and treat them that way. You need to see them as your true wealth - that nothing is more precious than your relationships.

Step #2: Be Deliberate.

Because you need to protect this treasure or they get stolen from you. No matter how busy I am, I schedule a weekly romantic date with my spouse. Yes, I actually write it down in my appointment book and treat it like a meeting with the President of the Philippines. These weekly nights are blocked off for the entire year. Nothing can touch it, except some dire emergency. Why? Because if my marriage fails, everything else stands to fail as well: My ministry, my businesses, my soul So it is an emergency that I bring her out every week. I also schedule a weekly date with my kids. I believe parents need to do these one-on-one dates with each of their kids. Unless of course you've got 18 children and may need to bring them out by two's or three's. Sometimes my son and I just walk around the village and talk. It doesn't have to be big. But swapping stories and opening our hearts to one another on a consistent basis is already very big to them. It means they matter to you, that you value them, and you'll see their self-esteem grow.

Step #3: Be Expressive.

I tell my wife I love you seven times a day. I hug my kids countless of times a day. At night, I tell my kids, I'm so proud you're my son. I'm so proud I'm your Daddy. You're a genius. You're a loving boy. You're an incredibly gifted young man. This is true. I have met 40-year olds who long to hear these words from their parents -I'm proud of you, and feel an empty space - like a gaping wound in their souls because their parents have never told them this. Don't do that to your kids. And before I forget: Praise your kids seven times a day. And praise your spouse seven times a day. I'm not kidding. It will revolutionize your marriage. If I say, Criticize your spouse seven times a day, I bet you'd say, Kaunti naman. I do that already. But that's the problem. We don't realize that when we criticize our spouses, we actually destroy our marriage bit by bit — not just our spouses. But when you praise and honor your spouse — you build up your marriage. It can be very simple stuff: Ang sarap ng luto mo ngayon, Hon. I thank God He gave you to me. You're so hardworking. I love it when I see you play with the kids. You know how to make me happy. Ganda mo ngayon. Keep on doing this and you'll see changes in your life and your marriage, you thought were not possible. Let me say it again: Praise your spouse — and your children — seven times a day.

Step #4: Be Deep
Your weekly dates shouldn't just be watching movies, eating out and going home. Talk deep. Talk about your feelings. Enter into each other's worlds. Dive into each other's dreams, hurts, desires, worries, hopes and burdens. When you open yourself up to your spouse or your child, there are more chances for the other person to open up to you.

Step #5: Be Simple

Yesterday afternoon, I preached to 700 people in Hong Kong. I usually give my talks for 45 minutes. That's been my trademark. But yesterday, I gave a solid two-hour talk. Vein-popping, heart-pounding, passion-driven talk — because I had a burden in my heart. Because I preached on Financial Literacy. I challenged them, “Raise your financial I.Q.! I scolded them, “When you left the Philippines, you told your kids, "Anak, two years of separation lang 'to. After two years, Mommy will have saved enough and will go home and we'll be together again." But after two years, you go home and you haven't saved. Because you repainted the house. Because there's a new TV set in the living room and a new gas range in the kitchen. Because the kids have new designer rubber shoes. I taught them how to live simply and ruthlessly save 20% of their income. Because unless they do this, they will be forever trapped in Hong Kong. Look at your life. Are you living simply? Are you saving 20% of your income?

Step #6: Be Financially Intelligent
I also taught them where to invest. I told them, It's not enough to just save. You need to know where to put your money. Because savings accounts at 1% and time deposits at 5% won't do. Inflation — which is at 7% — will simply eat them up. So I taught them about mutual funds and other investment vehicles, including the ability to sell something and get into business. Here's the truth: The more you know about money, the less time you need to make money. So the more time you have for your family. Actually, a time should come when you don't need to make money. Instead, you let money make money. And that requires financial intelligence. Read. Attend seminars. Look for mentors.

Go Home.
After giving my talk, I took a deep breath and told my audience in Hong Kong. When you follow these principles and have saved enough, please go home. Please go home to your children. I made a lot of people cry that day. I'm telling you the same thing. Oh yes, you may be living with your family in one house, but it's possible that your heart is so far away from your spouse and kids, and they are far away from you as well. You need to let your heart go home. Go home my friend. Your heart belongs there.

I just wish a few persons that I love dearly could read this article… thoroughly.